Thursday, November 17, 2016

Living with Asperger's



1 in 5 people in Scotland identify as being disabled.  I suspect that since you’re reading this blog then you probably know that stat thanks to the campaign 1 in 5 founded by Jamie Szymkowiak.  I was & am quite proud that my branch, Leith Walk SNP, was the first branch to sign up to the cross party “campaign to encourage, empower and increase political participation amongst disabled people in Scotland.”  If by some chance you’ve not heard of it then please follow the link at the end of this piece.  Although the campaign is a cross party one, the very ethos of it is a tenet of our party… Inclusion.    The First Minister said it herself just a few weeks ago at National Conference "Inclusion is the guiding principle for everything we do". 
That was just one of a couple of things at Conference that got me thinking about writing this.  The other was a fringe meeting organised by The National Autistic Society Scotland.  I’ve been to a few fairly memorable fringe meetings over the years.  I’ve been lucky enough to hear Jimmy Reid speak at one.  I saw Wendy Alexander brave a packed room of SNP members in Inverness.  But the Autism one was without doubt the most profound I’ve been to.  The main bit of the meeting was for a service user of the Society, Michael, to have a chat with the government minister responsible for the Scottish Government’s Autism Strategy, Jamie Hepburn MSP.  During this chat Michael described his experiences as someone who was diagnosed as an adult and particularly the issues he has in employment.  He recalled an occasion a while after his diagnosis where he met another guy who had been diagnosed as Aspergers/Autistic as an adult.  Michael had asked him what the diagnosis meant & he’d replied he didn’t know, other than that he’s got it.  That might sound a wee bit odd.  Most people with a condition, disability or illness could tell you exactly what the symptoms are.  The symptoms are usually quite obvious.  But Aspergers & Autism are spectrum disorders.  That means they affect folk in different ways.  I often find it difficult to explain too.  I’ll try to give some examples of the issues I’ve faced.

Let’s start with the most obvious one.  Obsessive and repetitive interests.  There’s a common phrase that I’m tempted to use here referencing Sherlock.  Politics and particularly the SNP have been my longest standing obsession.  No bad thing, most of the time.  But it has caused problems.  In 1997 I should have been studying for my Highers.  I didn’t and my results are testament to that.   The reason I didn’t is because I was too busy campaigning in Stirling for the SNP.  Now don’t get me wrong, I have some fantastic memories from that campaign.  I learned a lot during that time from some great people in the party.  I got to see Michael Forsyth lose his seat at the Stirling Albert Hall and his losing speech was a spectacle of the like I have never seen in politics since.  I even got to meet a childhood footballing hero, albeit he was a Labour supporter, at the count.  The sensible thing at that time would have been for me to be studying for my exams.  But I couldn’t see past the campaign.  To this day politics is far more than just an interest for me.  Almost every conversation I have ends up being about it.    I do have other interests.  But none are really just passing interests.  To say I’m a Steve Mason fan is an understatement.  I own almost everything Steve and The Beta Band have released.  I am a Hearts fan.  There was lengthy period of time when I didn’t miss a single game.  If I missed a game or if we lost (which was fairly often to be fair) it would seriously affect my mood.  I’ve talked before about being a news addict.  I’ll quite happily sit in front of rolling telly news all day long and have been known to spend entire weekends gripped to the screen.  My book collection got so out of control that I have boxes of books sitting at my Gran’s in Stirling.  The very thought of scaling down the collection makes me nauseous.  Most of this seems harmless enough.  But these obsessive interests certainly played a part in my dropping out of university.  Yet again it was primarily party stuff that got in the way.  The other major problem at uni was the fairly severe depression I was suffering at the time.  I’m not going to delve any deeper into that particular subject here.  It should however be noted that depression & anxiety problems are more common amongst those with spectrum disorders.  That’s not to say that it is not common amongst those not on the spectrum.  That would be daft to suggest, especially when 1 in 4 will suffer from a mental health problem at some point in their life. 

There are other symptoms I want to cover here.  The one that got me to speak to my GP about things & that led to the diagnosis.  I often have trouble reading social situations.  I love branch meetings.   There is the fact that I’ll be sitting in a room of people who all just want to talk politics.  But it’s also that there’s a structure to the meeting.  It’s quite obvious when I can talk because there’s a convener controlling things.  In situations where there is no convener it’s often not so obvious to me & I will get it wrong from time to time.  When I do get it wrong I’ll have it running through my head for quite some time afterwards and often it will be over the most insignificant incident.  The sort of incident I’m thinking of can be a minor as trying to speak to someone when they are mid-conversation with someone else.  It just comes across as being a bit boorish or rude.  I really don’t mean to be.  But when to enter a conversation isn’t always as obvious to me as it should be. 

I think I’ve made clear that the problems I face on a day to day basis are life-long.  Yet I only got my diagnosis at the age of 32.  The diagnosis process consists of very in depth interviews with a psychiatrist.  It took place over several months as each interview was 2 to 3 hours long.  I cannot speak highly enough of the doctor who conducted mine.  Once the diagnosis is given I was directed to a charity, Autism Initiatives (AI).  Yet again, I can’t speak highly enough of them, which is lucky as 4 years later I work for them as a Support Worker.  However from an NHS point of view I was on my own.  To be blunt, that’s not good enough.  Especially in the immediate months following the diagnosis I felt I needed support from the state of some kind.  I was given very little information about what the diagnosis actually meant.  This comes back to the comment made by Michael at the fringe meeting.  It was a few months after diagnosis that I finally told my employer.  They asked me what support they could offer & what the diagnosis actually meant.  At that point I didn’t really know.  Aside from AI I didn’t even really know where to go for information.  The fact that I was unable to properly articulate the problems that I faced as a direct result of the Asperger’s played a large part in the relationship I had with my employer breaking down.  In hindsight I see that some of the problems I faced might have been averted if my employers had a better understanding of my disorder.  But I also feel it’s partly my fault that I couldn’t educate them sufficiently.  I’ve since found other charities and websites that have helped give me a better understanding of things.  It also helps working for a charity that helps folk like me & who suffer a lot more than me.  Only 16% of people with Autism are in employment.  As much as I don’t associate myself with the term Autism, I’m an Aspie, I do understand that that figure does include me.  So given I’ve at least managed to stay in full time employment for most of my adult life, I’m one of the lucky ones.  Despite all the problems I’ve had in employment.

In 2010 the Tories were elected in the Westminster election.   My employer at the time was a well known Market Research company.  It was a casual contract so the shifts weren’t guaranteed.  There would be periods of time when you wouldn’t get any shifts at all.  Again, I was quite lucky, my work grade meant that I was often more likely to get shifts than others.  But not long after the election the shifts really started to drop off to the stage that I was seriously concerned about my ability to pay the mortgage.  That’s putting it lightly.  I was terrified.  My usual routine had been totally destroyed and I just couldn’t see any way out.  This had an impact on how I engaged with managers & staff there.  This all highlights 3 pretty major symptoms of the Asperger’s.  Firstly, a need for structure & routine.  The fact that had been destroyed caused me significant problems dealing with everything else.  Secondly, an ability to deal with change, which I know is a bit at odds with my lifelong fight for a socially just independent Scotland.  The ability to deal with change is one that causes me distress & upset.   However I’ve seen through my work just how much more intense that can be for those on the more extreme end of the spectrum.  It can be felt for many as acutely as a blow to the face or a cut finger.  Thirdly, we have, I have a tendency to over-react to things.  When bad things happen I really struggle to see the light & it can be quite a struggle to get through that.  For example, the Tories winning in 2010, the Brexit result or Donald Trump winning the Presidential election.  All those things terrified me.  The levels of nausea that I feel are quite overwhelming at times.  One of the senior managers at that company told me that he wouldn’t promote me exactly because of the symptoms I’ve just described.  The diagnosis didn’t come till after I’d moved on.  But I don’t believe for a second that he’d have treated me any differently if he had known.  He made quite clear that I didn’t have the qualities required to be a supervisor in his office.  A similar thing happened at the next employer where I was told that I “didn’t think like a manager.”  And that employer knew about the diagnosis. 

But it’s not that I don’t think like a manager.  I don’t think like the majority of the population.  A term I’ve learnt from my work as a Support Worker is “neurotypical” and “non-neurotypical”.   If you are on the Asperger’s/Autism Spectrum then you are non-neurotypical.  In layman’s terms it means my brain is wired a bit differently from the majority of the population.  This brings me onto the final points I want to make.  It is one thing to know that you are a bit different from other folk.  It’s another thing quite entirely to take in that one has a disorder or disability.  It’s taken me the best part of 4 years to really start accepting it.  I’ve supported the 1 in 5 campaign since the start and followed it fairly closely.  But, although I accepted the Aspie tag, I never really accepted that I was disabled.  I work with people who suffer from the symptoms much more severely than I do.  I’m not physically disabled in the sense that I need a wheelchair or crutches.  Someone may meet me & not realise that there’s anything wrong with me at all.  But get to know me  & I think it’s fairly obvious.  Those that really know me are never surprised when I tell them about the diagnosis.  They all say pretty much the same thing  “That explains a lot eh.”  It does.  It really does.  Learning and understanding this disorder is key to dealing with the problems I face.  But employers need to be a bit more proactive too.  The Scottish Government is doing some great work and I’m greatly impressed by the Autism Strategy.  But given my experiences I’m not entirely convinced that employers will just cease to discriminate against those of us with spectrum disorders.  After all, remember I apparently don’t think like a manager.  So am I ever going to feel a sense of career progression?  I’m not convinced greater awareness or understanding would have made the slightest difference to those previous managers.  Clear and enforceable legislation is probably the only thing that would.  Employers need to understand that there are some real positives to the condition that would actually be of benefit to their organisations.  For example Aspies often have a good attention to detail.  We work in a very structured way.  When I can see a pattern to the work I can latch onto that and often excel in the task.  It is also recognised that those on the spectrum are generally pretty loyal.  So if an employer or anyone else treats me with decency then I don’t forget it. 
I don’t want to finish this piece on a pessimistic note.  I now accept that I’m an Aspie.  I accept that I’m disabled, albeit a wee bit.  I don’t want folk to treat me any differently after reading this.  Well, I mean I don’t want my friends to.  I love the community of which I am part.  I’m very proud of what we’ve achieved together as a party in this constituency and the part I’ve played in it.  Some aspects of the disorder have led me to experiences that might not have happened otherwise.  Let’s face it there are far worse obsessions to have than that of wanting to reduce inequalities and the achievement of Scotland becoming an independent sovereign state.  








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